January 19, 2012 by Katie.
Welcome back after our day of protest! We do hope you called a senator or signed a petition! Regardless – let’s get back to it…. Project X begins!
As we mentioned last week, we feel that a lot of arguments begin, and then very quickly end, over the definitions of specific words people use. In general, these semantic arguments derail constructive conversation, and end up with everyone angry.
Moreover, we wonder if the issue is, while words have specific, demonstrable definitions, not everyone uses them the same way. They can be twisted, interpreted, and applied in a multitude of ways, sometimes confounding their foundational meaning. We then take on one of these as the only way these things can be interpreted. From there, we often confuse these words with the heart of someone’s argument – consequently passing judgment, and then engaging disagreement over the words as opposed to their application or interpretation.
To attempt to 1) clarify some terms, and 2) hopefully confine arguments about these words to a single post, we are kicking off Project X by explicitly defining some terms we will then go on to use.
Please take this time to:
1) Learn the basic and simple definition – we understand that these words can and do take on more complex meanings in different conversations. But let’s start the beginning.
2) Provide any feedback or concerns you may have with, or ask questions regarding the specific word. This is your change to do that because, to keep us on track from here on out, we will not be engaging further dialogue around these terms in the future.
Basically, go ahead and voice concerns, ask questions, or throw hissy fits. Get them over with. We will listen and engage those now, but not later. And, keep in mind, we’re still going to use these terms going forward, so let us know your ish now, and then please let it go.
To keep it simple, Nikki pretty much went on Wikipedia and looked up the most basic definition available. Again, we are not expanding beyond that definition at this time in an attempt to start with the basics. They are presented in alphabetical order:
But first, a note on the difference between “sex” and “gender”
“Sex” is biological, e.g. were you born with a penis or vagina. This is different from “gender,” which is a social construction of behaviors and norms either determined for you, or one you choose.
When your gender identity and role are in agreement with your biological sex, e.g. a straight woman born with a vagina is cisgendered (“cis” means “the same side [as]”).
A general term used for movements with the underlying goal of “defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women.” Feminist theory, or the philosophy behind feminist movements, strives to “understand the nature of gender inequality by examining women’s social roles and lived experience; it has developed theories in a variety of disciplines in order to respond to [specific] issues.”
A “form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her memory and perception.” May simply be denying previous abuse or insult, or even staging strange events to disorient the victim.
Great article on it here: “A Message to Women From A Man You are Not” (The Current Conscience.com, 9/12/2011)
The classification of sex and gender as either masculine or feminine, and that these are distinct from one another. This often includes disparate male and female gender roles, identities, and attributes, and discourages individuals from crossing or mixing gender, or creating additional expressions of gender.
A secondary note of importance: Gender binaries are not a necessary aspect of society and culture. Many people do not follow gender binary definitions, either biologically speaking or culturally speaking. Not every person ever born has XX or XY chromosomes, nor is everyone comfortable in their biological sex: e.g. people are transgendered, intersexuals, genderqueer, transsexual, etc. The gender binary excludes all of these.
Your self-identified gender which may or may not be in (societal/cultural) congruence with your biological sex at birth.
The behavioral norms determined as appropriate for individuals of a specific gender within a specific culture.
A field of interdisciplinary study that looks at gender and its intersection with race, ethnicity, sexuality, location, etc. The idea that gender is a social and cultural construction of masculinities and femininities, “not to the state of being male or female in its entirety” is core to the field. Other areas, however, look at the role biological sex plays in social constructs of gender.
The dominant gender and sexual relationships that determine men and women as distinct and complementary genders/sexes, and heterosexuality as the normal sexual orientation.
Men’s Studies, Masculinity Studies
An interdisciplinary academic field on topics of men, masculinity, gender, and politics. In many universities, often a correlation to women’s studies and part of a larger gender studies program.
Stories that we collectively create and use to explain our culture and our behavior. We realize this is vague, yet also narrow in terms of what “narrative” can mean, but it’s a big topic in of itself, and we’re trying to start basic. We’ll expand on it, and hopefully make it more clear, later.
According to Wikipedia, it “literally means ‘rule of fathers,’ ‘father,’ or ‘chief of a race, patriarch.’ Historically, the term patriarchy was used to refer to autocratic rule by the male head of a family. However, in modern times, it more generally refers to social systems in which power is primarily held by adult men.”
A secondary note of importance: the root of this system does not rest in prehistoric hunter-gatherer societies, where men supposedly dominated due to significant physical capabilities. These societies were actually generally much more egalitarian. The true root of patriarchal social structures came later with social and technological innovations such as agricultural and the domestication of animals, which created this and other fundamental aspects of our culture today. Therefore, patriarchy does not have biological roots, but cultural ones.
A Simone sidenote: Many social scientists have discussed this topic but two who are fairly frequently quoted are Michel Foucault and Karl Marx.
Refers generally to the – sometimes “invisible” – special rights or status granted to specific groups in a society, mostly via social structures, on the basis of their sex or gender, race, class, sexuality, etc.
A cultures where rape and sexual violence is prevalent and, moreover, is normalized, excused, or tolerated. Now this can be a culture where people rape with abandon and no one does anything, or where rape is used, without punishment, as a violent act of control (because, of course, those exist), but the more important point for us – and what we’d like to focus on – is that sexual violence is normalized and excused. A few ways in which a culture allows for rape and sexual assault are victim blaming, sexual objectification, and trivializing rape.
We hope you’ve enjoyed this vocabulary lesson! Before we close for comments, we’d also ask you to take note of a few additional things:
1. These things exist. Again, by all means, let us know your concerns, but for the love, accept that decades of study and scholarship, by both men and women, have collectively agreed on the existence of these things. We will not be engaging arguments that, simply because you don’t experience something or someone else has used a term in appropriately in your opinion, the concept itself is nonexistent.
2. These are the basic definitions we are going to use from here on out. Yes, it’s possible that we might add to definitions if a good point is made, but, well, probably not. We’d prefer to defer to the work of a truckload of others.
3. Be ok with being wrong. We understand that, especially as we move from here into application, these things are difficult and uncomfortable. A big reason why people argue over semantics is because they don’t personally see evidence for these concepts in their own lives. That’s ok; we are not saying and will not say that these things are readily universally applicable to everyone. However, just as their existence doesn’t equate to universality, simply not experiencing is not evidence for their complete absence. As such, you need to be ok accepting that there’s a big world out there, beyond your front door. That being said, we both believe individual experience is valid. We do want to hear your personal experience, and why that experience makes you believe certain terms or theory don’t apply. We believe we can learn from this conversation, too. However, please refrain from generalizations, and please be willing to listen and consider the scholarship we will bring to bear here, even if it is difficult or feels wrong to you personally. Again, explain to us why it feels wrong, and try not to assume that is must therefore feel wrong to everyone or simply is wrong.
4. We have to limit ourselves. We are getting into super deep water here – there are entire fields devoted to some of these topics; semester long classes barely cut the surface. We need to be concise to move forward – but please bring it up/ask if you feel we’ve missed something significant.
Thank you for reading, and please let us know your thoughts! We’re looking forward to where this goes from here!
Simone & Nikki
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